The sun is perfect and you woke this morning. you have enough language in your mouth to be understood. You have a name, and someone wants to call it. Five fingers on your hand and someone wants to hold it. If we just start there, every beautiful thing that has and will ever exist is possible. If we start there, everything, for a moment, is right in the world.
step away from the internets.
remove physical memories (photographs, failed relationship memorabilia).
sever all communication.
go out with your friends.
look after your body.
talk to people who have been through worse (compare and count blessings).
do not watch ‘blue valentine’ or listen to van hunts ‘down here in hell with you’.
cry whenever you need to cry, even in inappropriate settings like when holding your cousins baby or in the tinned food aisle.
see the break up as a form of liberation, as a letting go of something that was ultimately no good for you.
do not romanticise your relationship in hindsight, be very honest about the times when you were both terrible and toxic.
make peace, wish him love, educate yourself in what you actually want in a partner, in a relationship and next time, do not over look the warning signs (there were plenty).
in one to five years, you will have moved on.